IS ATTACHMENT PARENTING FOR WEAK PEOPLE?
What is attach parenting? According to Google, “Attachment parenting (AP) is a parenting philosophy that proposes methods which aim to promote the attachment of mother and infant not only by maximal maternal empathy and responsiveness but also by continuous bodily closeness and touch.”
As a mother who has first handily seen the benefits of attachment parenting. Let me speak briefly about my experience, I breastfed her son for four years and had been co-sleeping from birth till today. I must confess that the co-sleeping was something that happened because I was breastfeeding, and I didn’t see the need to get up in the middle of the night for every feeding. I had no idea; there was a phenomenon called co-sleeping.
Did you consciously chose attachment parenting or like me it’s something that happened to you? There are several debates for and against AP (attached parenting). I find it fascinating that people have an opinion on why parent chose to rear their children.
I can speak on how it has impacted myself and my son. When my son turned four years old this summer, we stopped breastfeeding. I didn’t have to wean him; we had a discussion where I explain to him how he is now a big boy who is going to start Pre-K, he comprehended and willingly obliged to self-weaning. It was delightfully a smooth and rapid transition. We still co-sleep, and I will not want it no other way.
Today he is an independent child who is caring, thoughtful and emotionally stable. Some of the benefits are how emotional stable your child becomes, your experience may be different from mine, but as for me I have not seen any adverse outcome.
So attachment parenting pros and cons are some of the things you may want to consider researching before deciding if it is the way to go for your family. Remember let no one dictate to you what kind of parenting is ideal. Do what feels right for you and your family structure. As long as your child is not in harm’s way my
My advice to you will be that you develop a system that is suitable for a sensible lifestyle. Too much outside chatter or influence regarding how you should live your life or raise your children for the most part only brings about regrets in the long run. As mothers, we all have an innate instinct, and when we follow that, it never steer us wrong.
Love your family, do your best and don’t get too attach to labels created by societal doctrine to subconsciously divide us into categories when in reality we are more alike than we are different. Taking care of our mental and physical health I believe is the better topic of discussion rather than parenting style.
Finally, when you become physically, mentally and spiritually fit, only then are you best equip to raise decent human being and that my friends are what we all want in the long run. What society deems as appropriate parenting should be the least of your worries. I will like to hear how AP has impacted your life whether positively or negatively.